Adoption Myth #3: There Is No Role for the Birth Father

For You From The Word

Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go. (Joshua 1:9, NIV)

For You To Think About

guy on stairsNovember is National Adoption Awareness Month, which provides an opportunity to increase understanding about adoption. Birth parents, in particular, face multiple misconceptions as they consider the adoption option.

Adoption Myth #3: There is no role for the birth father in the adoption process.

The Truth: The birth father has the same rights as the birth mother. He is very important in an inclusive adoption plan.

Three key factors determine the extent of a birthfather’s role in adoption.

  • Identification. Does the birth father know he has fathered a child? A man cannot take an active role in the adoption process if he is not aware of the pregnancy.
  • Personal wishes. While some birth fathers fail to take responsibility, many wish to help create the adoption plan and have contact with their birth children after placement. A birth father may decide to receive counseling, help choose the adoptive parents, meet the adoptive parents, see the baby, and establish visiting rights. His role can be largely determined by his choices.
  • State laws. While birth fathers have the same rights as birthmothers, requirements and processes differ state to state.

It can take a lot of courage for a birth father to take an active role in the adoption process. Yet those who do overwhelmingly believe they play a key role in what is ultimately best for the child.

For You To Pray

Heavenly Father,
Give birth fathers courage. Help them be a part of the decision process and be a part of their children’s lives. Allow me the opportunity to talk with someone about adoption and share accurate information.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.

More About Adoption Awareness

Adoption Myth #1: You Won’t Know What Happens to Your Child

Adoption Myth #2: Placing a Child Is Irresponsible

How to Be Ready to Share About Adoption

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